Single and tough

Challenge Yourself

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101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single lists a wide variety of benefits of living the single life, including not having to share your Ben N Jerry’s, being able to eat Lucky Charms for dinner, and binging on junk food without judgement.

It’s true – being single can make your inner glutton shiver with excitement and encourage you to take advantage of every fatty/sugary endeavor you can imagine. On the other end of the spectrum though, is the drive to achieve new fitness goals and try out new physical activities with all the time you have now that you’re single.

I don’t know about you, but I seem to do everything to excess.  If I feel like eating an entire bag of Oreos, I’m going to do it because that’s what I feel like doing! (Okay that’s a lie, I get really sick after half a bag, but I’ll get there someday.  It’s good to have life goals).  On the other hand, some days I’ll spend 2 hours at the gym and then go for a run later just because I’m in the zone.

This year, I decided that I should sign up for some sort of fitness challenge.  I did Tough Mudder in 2012 and had a blast, so I decided “why not put myself through that pain and suffering again?  After all, I did it once!”.

Once word got out that I was participating in Tough Mudder, friends starting asking me to do other fitness events with them.  In true all-or-nothing fashion I am now registered for Tough Mudder, the Sun Run, Mudderella, Mud Hero and Rugged Maniac.

This will either be the year that I become an all-around hard core total fitness bad-ass…. or die.  #itsgreattobesingle

101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single is available on AuthorhouseAmazon, and Barnes and Noble 

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Sports when you are single

Join All the Sports!

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When I am single I have a lot more time for extracurricular activities.  My week isn’t filled up with sitting in front of the TV with my significant other or going on dates.  I’m not saying those things are bad, I’m just saying that they take up quite a bit of time.

If I were to sit down and ask myself “do I want to join a sport a couple times a week, or spend that time watching TV”?  I would most definitely choose the sport.  However, for some reason when I am in a relationship I don’t ask myself what I want – I just sort of fall into the groove of the relationship.

I recently got really excited about this concept.  So excited that I joined a soccer team, a hiking club and a boot camp.  I already hit the gym quite frequently, gym time is solo.  I figured not only would these group fitness activities keep me fit, but I would also meet some pretty awesome people with the same interests.

Flying solo means I’m social and active – I’ll take it!  #itsgreattobesingle

101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single is available on AuthorhouseAmazon, and Barnes and Noble 

Plant growth

Being Single = Personal Growth

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As I carefully plucked the dead leaves off my plant, I thought to myself that by removing these parts that the plant no longer needed, I was allowing it more room to breathe and grow.

Being me, I immediately had an “aha, metaphor!” moment and chuckled to myself like an idiot.  It’s true though – when I am in a relationship with someone who is incompatible or even toxic, I hold myself back from personal growth.  When I am single, I focus more on myself and how I can improve emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and physically.

I have had some toxic relationships.  I knew that they were “dead leaves” to my personal growth, and yet there was a part of me that nagged “if we try harder, if we change this part of our self, then this could work”.  Well, it didn’t work, and during the process of discovering this I faced some heavy emotional turmoil.  Truth was, we weren’t a good fit – we weren’t right for each other.

There is no regret there because this was a learning experience.  It simply meant that I need to be single and focus on growing personally and understanding myself better and what I need in a relationship.  No more square peg round hole!

I continue to grow myself emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and physically on a daily basis and I tell you – it feels amazing #itsgreattobesingle

101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single is available on AuthorhouseAmazon, and Barnes and Noble 

 

Single Woman

101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be single

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Singleness has somehow become a word that carries with it a negative connotation, as if being single means there is something wrong with you. Comments such as “she’s such a lovely girl, I wonder why she hasn’t found a good man yet” are coupled with looks of pity and suggestions of how to meet someone.

Well, I’m here to tell you that the negative connotation of singleness is BS. We learn faster, discover ourselves more deeply, and are overall happier and more content with life when we are single than when we are in an unsuitable relationship with another human being. Over the past decade, I’ve had four long-term relationships; none of which lasted. While I loved them, none of those men were the one. I believe that there is someone out there—that is, a man that will make my heart pound with excitement and my hands clam up— and I will not settle for less than that.

During this time, I have embraced my singleness. I’ve discovered various reasons why, contrary to popular belief, it is truly great to be single. I am not lonely, I am not pining for affection, and I feel more alive than ever. I’m standing up for singleness, and I tell you, it feels great.

101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single is available on AuthorhouseAmazon, and Barnes and Noble 

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Happy Hump Day!

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Now that Valentine’s Day is over us singletons can go back to hitting on each other without the awkward topic of “so what are you doing for Valentine’s Day?”

The WORST is when you’ve been on a few dates and then Valentine’s comes along and threatens to throw you into a committed relationship before you really know the person.  It’s a LOVE day, and we just aren’t there yet – oh gawd, palms sweaty.

I’m sure the terms “I’m just gunna do me” was thrown around quite a bit this weekend.  Me?  I spent it with my lady friend getting tipsy and prancing around downtown like idiots commiserating about our lack of love.  Twas a great night.

I always thought it would be great to meet someone on V-day actually, just for the sake of being able to combine two holidays.  Seriously, between his birthday, your anniversary, Vday, Christmas, and other random celebrations that pop up out of nowhere, how am I supposed to keep coming up with amazing blow-you-away surprises (and money!).

But ANYWAYS, it’s over now and we can breathe a little easier for one more year.  Get back on that dating train.  Dating is great – you go out with some random individual you don’t know, and get to learn a little bit about their life.  Even if it doesn’t work out, you get some great conversation (and if you don’t, it’s still a great story to tell your friends).

#itsgreattobesingle

101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single is available on AuthorhouseAmazon, and Barnes and Noble 

Happy Satisfied Staying Single Day!

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Did you know that February 11th is Satisfied Staying Single Day?  Nope, neither did I – until I heard it on the news this morning.  Apparently today is a big deal.

I have to say I love the title.  It isn’t “Fuck Relationships Day”, or “Go to Hell you Canoodlers Day” – it’s just Satisfied Staying Single.  Satisfied.  Just the perfect word.

It really grinds my gears when I hear single people bashing relationships (and I should note that my gears get grinded very rarely). Why? Well, because there is absolutely nothing wrong with two people in love, and the fact that they have found each other does not make you more single than you were before they met.  The only problem there is perspective – the thought that the relationship status of ‘single’ is less than that of being ‘in a relationship’.  This thought is most certainly askew.

There are SO many things that are great about being single. However, the feeling of being alone at times can turn to feelings to loneliness and suddenly we’ve forgotten about all the great things that singleness brings.  That whole “grass is greener” scenario that we seem to say all the time but never really let sink in.

We forget that our grass is pretty freakin’ luscious right where we stand and sometimes we just need a little reminder, like Satisfied Staying Single Day, to kick things back into perspective.

Allow me to offer you some reminders:

  • BONUS INVITES: Your friend/family member is suddenly left solo for an event they bought two tickets to and they need a replacement!  Ta-da, you WIN.
  • GO OUT WITHOUT GUILT: No one to answer to if you want to hit the clubs, or take a weekend vaca with your friends.
  • THE TOILET SEAT IS WHERE YOU LEFT IT: That’s right ladies, no middle of the night bum-dunking for you
  • SAVE MONEY: No spending money this Valentine’s day unless it’s on yourself (and you always know exactly what you want!)

There are actually 101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single.

So go ahead you single saucy devil, get out there and celebrate this Satisfied Staying Single Day #itsgreattobesingle

 

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No Need to Wear Pants

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There’s something about walking around your own apartment with no pants on, which is much more free and liberating than when you live with someone.  Living with my ex, there was never a time where I would come home, take off my pants and shoes, and flop down on the couch to watch TV.  I suppose I could have, I just didn’t.

Living on my own, I may as well have a laundry basket next to the shoe rack.  It signifies that my day is complete, and it’s home time.  Relaxation.  Something in my brain just switches off – “No pants? Oh well then we are clearly not doing anything tonight, time to stop working” – and any stress I had built up from the day just disappears!  It’s really hard to worry about life problems when you’re not wearing pants.  Go ahead, try it.

There are some days where the no pants thing gets in the way – the other day I was very hungover and wanted to order pizza, but answering the door meant putting pants on.  Also, a couple months ago my neighbor upstairs somehow managed to fall off the balcony, and I needed to put on pants to go outside and call the ambulance. Luckily, I usually have a pair of pants laying around near the door so it didn’t take too much effort to slide those puppies back on. #itsgreattobesingle

101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single is available on AuthorhouseAmazon, and Barnes and Noble