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Top 15 Reasons to Be Single This Summer

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Single for the summer?  Pick up 101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single for the complete list of why being single this summer is going to be simply amazing.

In the meantime, check out our Top 15 Reasons for Staying Single this Summer!

  1. Look Better: Being single means you have more time to hit the gym and get that beach-ready bod.
  2. Have More Time to Travel: No need to compare your schedule with your “other” – just grab a friend and take off!
  3. Save Some Coin: Summertime means warm weather and that means dates that don’t cost a fortune! Picnic on the beach? Yes please!
  4. No Sharing Your Ice Cream: Does this even need an explanation?? Not having to share your cookie dough double scoop should really be enough.
  5. Find Your Stuff Quickly: Summertime means getting home from work, grabbing your beach gear and sprinting back to your besties’ car to hit the beach before sun down. Being single means you don’t have someone moving your things around and causing unnecessary “where’s my suit” type question time-wasters.
  6. Take Advantage of Bonus Invites: Summertime means summertime events, and whenever anyone has a +1 you are always the #1 invite!
  7. Go on Guilt-free Adventures: No need to worry about disappointing your beau when you get invited onto that shirtless all-male speed boat. Sail away you single saucy broad!
  8. Belt it Out: There is an air of liberation when driving around solo in the summer and belting out your summertime tunes.  You just don’t have the same freedom and ridiculousness with your “other” in the car.
  9. Let it Hang Low: Although more accurate for those of the male variety, this still rings true for girls.  Being naked in your own home is extremely liberating if you’re single (**side note: and live alone. Unless the roommates are keen on those kind of shenanigans…).
  10. Be a Visitor in Your Own City: When you’re single you get to go on first dates! That means being a visitor in your own city and checking out the exciting touristy things you wouldn’t normally do.
  11. Mix up Your Meals: Summertime means farmers markets! No need to worry about what your “other” does or doesn’t like, you can create your own summertime concoctions that you enjoy!
  12. No Random Mess: No need to worry about bathing suits tossed over the bannister and sand sprinkled on the floor when you get home from work. The only random summertime messes are from your beachwear….and somehow they are much less annoying when they are yours!
  13. Treat Yourself: Summertime means all those winter clothes are shoved into the back of your closet and new summer-wear is out on display in the stores at a reasonable cost (especially considering you’re only buying half the shirt)… go ahead and rock those crop tops you single saucy broad!
  14. Find Your Zen: No matter how similar you are to someone, or how well you get along, there will always be times when you fight.  Summertime is not a time for fighting; it’s a time to relax, tan, swim, and maybe grab a few bevvies. Being single means no conflict.
  15. Sexy Magic: As soon as you own your singleness you immediately become more attractive to those around you. Whether you’re strutting down the beach, sauntering up to the barista, or casually tossing that Frisbee back to the individual with the winning “thank you” smile, you are owning this summer!!

* For the full article see Top 15 Reasons to be Single this Summer

**For the full 101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single book see Amazon

Did I miss one?  Leave your comment below!!

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Health Benefits of Being Single

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Given that you are reading this article, I’ll assume that you have read more than one article outlining how day-to-day stress leads to significant health concerns. If not, there are quite a few examples of how stress impacts the body listed here.

BUT did you know that being single can actually reduce stress??

More specifically, being single can reduce depression & anxiety, lower high blood pressure, help manage obesity, enhance sexual desire and lower the effect of gastrointestinal problems such as gastritis and irritable colon.

Sound too good to be true? Not quite.

Many people jump into relationships because they feel the social stigma tells them they have to. Studies show that most are simply scared of being single. Is it not ironic that being in a relationship with the wrong person, can actually lead to more stress than being single?? I think so.

The simple fact is, if you focus less on trying to find someone and more on yourself and your health, you will not only create a less stressful lifestyle and thus decrease the potential of later health detriments, but you’ll also make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex; live longer, AND meet sexy singletons in the process!

 

 

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How to Quickly Get Rid of Your Friends that Suck

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At some point in our lives we find ourselves questioning the quality of our group of close friends. Perhaps you’ve been friends since high school and you’ve just held on even though things aren’t a great fit, or maybe you’ve picked them up recently after a friendly introduction in the bathroom bar (post-jagger bomb shot of course).

Whatever the reason, we all have those one or two (or maybe even a handful for you eager beavers out there) friends that we really don’t know why we’re still friends with. Yet, we continue the friendship and pretend as if things are fine.

Some of these friendships are harmless, and at times even helpful. There are others though, that simmer under the surface just waiting to pop up and shake the foundation of your once pleasant lifestyle.

How do you determine the difference?  Why, with this list of course:

Top 5 Friend Personality Types:

#1: The Single Clinger

This is usually one of those single friends that focuses on the negative attributes of being single. Whether it’s another “Lonely Friday night with the cat “LOL #catcuddles” Instagram post, or 35 Snapchats to you of dinner with the parents including “Dinner at the parents house, so glad I get food made for me #chicken”, they always seem to fish for some sort of affirmation that their life isn’t completely devoid of excitement and meaning.

It doesn’t matter if they’re talking about pets or parents or friends…. The undertone is always “I’m single and I’m lonely and my life sucks.”

Toss or Keep? These friends are good to keep around, as they are always there for you.  They are usually the most loyal in your times of need, and you are usually who they turn to for advice or.  However, if their Instagram or Snapchat stories get to be too much, it’s your job to set them straight.

#2: The Boyfriend/Girlfriend Obsessed

These are the friends that find a girlfriend/boyfriend and all of a sudden are gone from your life.  They only reach out to you when either a) a fight breaks out and they need you to reaffirm their position or b) they are becoming bored and need their girl time/ boy time.

Toss or Keep? Problem is, you will likely become one of these one day, and you will want your friends to be there in your time of need.  Sucking it up now and taking one for the team will only help you later.

#3 The Quiet Listener

These friends are the best friends.  They will listen to you whenever you have problems, and will wait for you to ask them about their own.  If you don’t reach out to hang out with them they will likely never text you, but as soon as you reach out they are there.

Toss or Keep?  Never let this one go – they wont be around all the time, but when they are, they are extremely valuable.

#4: The Alcoholic

This is that friend that you know will always be up for a good party.  Every time you go out and every conversation you have, drinking is involved.

You don’t know them on a personal level but when you think about them in general you feel a positive vibe about them. They are always up for a good time.

Toss or Keep? Toss these friends.  They often bring a lot of drama, and talk to you about their life situations asking for advice.  Other than that, you don’t know each other on a personal level and only ever bond when drinking together.

#5: The Advice Giver

There is always that one friend that knows the solution to everything. You have a bad day and you just want to rant to them – and they come back with some solution to solve all your problems. WTF…

Toss or Keep? Keep this. Yes, this is annoying, but who’s fault is it?  They are obviously a good friend trying to help you out, and yes you have the right to rant to them.  However, if they offer advice that you don’t want it’s your responsibility to tell them that you really just need a shoulder to listen and not a sounding board.

Get Rid of Your Friends that Suck?

Most of us think we have friends that we just want to drop. In reality though, it’s good to think about those friends that are just annoying in the moment vs. those that really don’t contribute to our lives in general.

Like my writing style?  Check out 101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single, available on Amazon, and Barnes and Noble!

 

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Single Travel Perks

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I’m 27 and single.  I’ve had long term relationships in the past, however I came to the realization that while I loved them I couldn’t see myself marrying them and wasn’t keen on sticking in a long term relationship that I knew wasn’t going anywhere.

Upon announcing my singleness to people I find the most common reaction to be surprise that I haven’t “found someone”. Sometimes I get inquiries as to how I ended up single at 27, and even suggestions on where I can go to meet a new guy. The common theme seems to be that if you’re single there is something wrong with you.

I don’t take this view at all.  I love being single, and in my book 101 Reasons Why it’s Great to be Single I outline MANY reasons (101 to be exact) why being single is wonderful.  Not sharing my bed, not having to shave all the time, and not sharing my precious Ben N Jerry’s ice cream are a few of my faves.

My top reason, however, is that I get to travel wherever and whenever I want.  I have a full-time job, I live alone, and I have no one to answer to.  And, I LOVE to travel.

This year I went to Huatulco, Cancun, Seattle, Whistler, and Kamloops… and it’s only July!  I also have trips to Edmonton and Vegas coming up and am toying with the idea of jetting off to LA for a weekend soon.

Sometimes I travel with family, sometimes friends, and sometimes just by myself.  I love travelling alone and getting to learn more about myself and meet new people along the way.  Could I do that if I was in a long-term relationship or married with kids?  Probably not…. certainly not as easily.

I may not be single forever, but while I am single I’m certainly enjoying my freedom!

101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single is available on Amazon, and Barnes and Noble!

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Staying Positive After a Breakup

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We’ve all gone through it – that post breakup slump. Where a big black cloud seems to come over your world and all of a sudden you’re encased in negativity and pessimism.

Thoughts of self doubt – “maybe I’m just not good enough for anyone”, fear – “what if I’m alone forever?” and rage – “why can’t he see what he’s missing out on!”, become all too familiar, and our happy-go-lucky selves slowly become grayed out….

These are all very normal thoughts.  All part of the process of working through feelings of pain of the experience.  Eventually we work through them and then gradually, or sometimes suddenly, we realize we’re starting to feel happy again.  We find our normal.

Sometimes when you’re in the slump it seems never ending.  But it does end, it always does.  Nothing lasts forever – not sadness, not happiness.  So, we just wait out the hard times and cherish the good ones.

If you have an awesome best friend they’ve probably already brought you a Break-Up Care Package.  However, there are things that you can do for yourself to help move this process along faster to get you out of your funk.

Here are my top 5 tips to a happy breakup recovery:

1. Get Some Rest

Breakups are emotional and stress out your body.  Your knee-jerk reaction may be to go out and party all night to forget whats-his-face, however all you’re doing is adding more stress on your already tired mind and body.  This is a good time to avoid too much alcohol and instead take care of #1: you.

2. Surround Yourself with Friends/Family

This is probably a time where you’re feeling alone and maybe vulnerable.  It’s easy to get stuck in your own head going over and over all the good times, bad times, the ups and downs and everything between.  It’s easier to get out of your head when there are people around you who care about you and can help you take your mind off things during this time.

3. Treat Yourself

Do things for yourself that make you happy, without guilt.  Go shopping and buy a new shirt, bake the whole roll of cookie dough, watch a whole season of your favorite show, or sit in that bubble bath for an hour with a good book (maybe 101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single?!).  You know what makes you happy, so go ahead and indulge in those guilty pleasures because this is the time when you truly deserve them.

4. Exercise

Yeah, most of you probably hate me right now! Exercise is likely the last thing you want to do when you’re feeling low.  BUT if you get your butt up and go out there and do it, I guarantee you that it won’t be something you regret.  No one says “man I feel so gross after that workout”.  It doesn’t have to be something huge – even going to the gym and hitting the elliptical while rockin’ your favorite tunes is a huge energy booster.

5. Talk About it

Don’t get me wrong – I don’t mean dwell on every little thing about the relationship.  I’m referring to how you feel about it and how the experience impacted you.  It’s definitely much easier to just shut it out and pretend as though it never happened, but all that is doing is pushing that anger, hurt and resentment under the surface and those feelings are going to come up eventually.  It’s easier to talk about them now, so that they can come up and out and you can move on with your life.

Those are just the 5 that I’ve found work best for me.  Have others?  I’d love to hear them – please share in the comments below!

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The Benefits of Being Single

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My phone rang as my coworker knocked on my door.  I told them I’d be over in a minute, as I answered the phone and glanced at my inbox to see 5 unread emails awaiting my attention.

As I hung up the phone I felt a sense of excitement as I reflected on my current situation – I love my job, I thought to myself.  I love having a ton of things going on, and knowing that I have the experience to handle them all.  I love the sense of importance and success I get with every daily achievement.

I reflected back to my elementary school days when I would scatter my drawings all over my desk to look as busy as dad did, as he reviewed cases for an upcoming trial.  I idolized the success of my parents and looked forward to one day working hard to be in a job that I loved and was proud of.

This is just the personality type I have – I am driven, strong, and independent (admittedly to a fault). What does this mean for relationships?  It means I would rather be single than be with someone who suppresses rather than compliments my strengths. I don’t want to be a side-kick, I want a partner in crime (so to speak).

I do believe that one day a partner will come along that can handle my gusto, and enhance my life in a manner that blows all my reasons for being single out of the water.

Until he comes along, however, I embrace all the benefits of being single.  I revel in coming home to watch my favorite TV shows, down a bucket of Ben N Jerry’s without judgement, and sprawl out in my very own bed.  I celebrate all 101 Reasons Why it’s GREAT to be Single.

101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single is available on Amazon, and Barnes and Noble!

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Top 20 Reasons to Be Single this Summer

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As a newly single lady, I announced my singleness with the expectation of cheers of liberation and praise. To my surprise, I was instead given hugs, comforting words, and suggestions on where I could go to find a new man.

Evidently society possessed the opinion that a single female in her late twenties should be jumping back on that bandwagon quickly, or be left to a life of solitude.  Even dating sites began insisting that they had the right formula to meet the man of my dreams, and my own mother subtly hinted at the benefits that match.com could bring me.

While surprised at these reactions, I wasn’t phased by them.  The relationship grass may have been greener, but rather than looking over the other side of the fence I was going to water my own damn lawn!

I began to jot down all the reasons why I was appreciative of being single, and what do you know – I came up with 101 of them!

With summer just around the corner, I have a whole new list of reasons why it’s great to be single!  Let’s take a look through the top 20 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single This Summer:

  1. You’ll Look Better

We get into a relationship and we become complacent.  Not to mention, you just don’t seem to have as much time as when you’re single.  Being single means you have more time to hit the gym, and gives you the incentive you need to do so – get that gym body!

  1. More Friends

Single people have more emotional energy to share with friends.  When you enter into a relationship, you want to spend all the time you can with your boyfriend or girlfriend.  That’s cute, but now you have less time to spend with friends and your social circle dwindles.  Keep that social life luscious by living the single life.

  1. More Travelling

Summer is a fantastic time to get out and explore the open road.  When you are in a relationship you have to work out both of your schedules, and you have to choose a place that you both want to go to.  When you’re single, you have a ton of friends to choose from – at least one of them will be available and willing to head off to your favorite destination.

  1. Dating

Summer dating is fantastic – there are a TON of summertime activities that are a really good time, and usually FREE.  You don’t have to be guilty about going on a couple dates each week because you aren’t blowing your wallet.

  1. No Sharing Ice Cream

It’s summer… it’s freakin’ hot out.  So you go to the store to grab a tub of your favorite quality cookie dough ice cream.  When you’re single, you don’t have to share!  That tub is simply too small for two spoons.

  1. Getting Where you Need to Be

Doing anything always takes much longer when there are two people.  Getting ready to go out, picking a restaurant, and even planning your traveling adventures all take much less time when you’re solo.

  1. Finding Your Stuff

You have a way of organizing your things that may not make sense to someone else.  So your boyfriend or girlfriend, trying to be helpful, cleans the house and puts your things somewhere – and now you can’t find them!  When you’re running out of the house to hit the beach the last thing you want to do it rummage around looking for your bathing suit.

  1. Bonus Invites

There are lots of events happening in the summer!  If you are single and one of your friends of family members has an extra ticket somewhere they are going to ask you, you are the token single person there to save the day.

  1. Guilt-Free Adventures

In the summer you never know what shenanigans you’ll get up to. Boat rides with random hotties at the beach?  Heck yes!

  1. Belt it Out

Summertime is the best time to roll down your windows and belt it out to your favorite tune.  There’s an air of liberation that comes when you are alone in the car, that just isn’t there when you’re driving around with a boyfriend or girlfriend.

  1. You Know Where You’re Junk’s At

This point relates to junk in a sexual nature.  It’s summertime, there are scantily clad people everywhere and the risk of cheating is at an all-time high.  When you’re single, you know where your junk is and who you’re sharing it with.

  1. Let is Hang Low

It’s a fun visual, however this point goes for gals just as much as guys – you’re single, you live alone, and it’s hot out because its summer.  Why not be naked in your own home?  When you live with someone, even someone you’re comfortable with, you probably aren’t just wandering around the house naked.  When you’re single though – all bets are off (unless you don’t have blinds…then perhaps be conscious of your neighbors as well).

  1. No Foreign Shniggits

What is a schniggit you say?!  A schniggit is a small fleck of something, anything.  Those moustache trimmings he leaves in the sink? Schniggit!  The leg hairs sticking to the side of the tub after she shaves?  Shchniggits!  The pieces of sand dragged into the house after a day at the beach?  Those are schniggits too!  When you’re single the only schniggits you need to worry about are your own.  Somehow they are much less gross when they are yours.

  1. A Visitor in Your Own City

The first date always carries pressure of doing something exciting.  This helps you do things you wouldn’t normally do, and in the summer there are OH so many activities to try!  After a few first dates you now know you’re city better than before, and you have lots more activities to do with your friends.

  1. Mix Up Your Meals

When you’re single you can eat whatever you want! Summer time means farmer’s markets, with TONS of fresh local veggies.  No need to worry about whether your boyfriend or girlfriend will eat what you’re cooking – it’s all up to you!

  1. No Random Mess

No cleaning up someone else’s mess.  Whether it’s a dirty bathing suit in the bathtub, a used towel thrown on the floor from a day at the beach, or sandy flip flops in the hallway, when it’s someone else’s mess it’s WAY more annoying than when it’s yours.

  1. What Do You Want?

Ever been asked what you wanted to do and actually had no idea what to say?  In a relationship, you’re constantly taking into consideration what your partner wants to do, and not really thinking about what would make you happy.  Summertime has lots of fun activities for you to try – get out there and do something you wouldn’t normally do!

  1. Treat Yourself

Feel like buying a whole new summer wardrobe?  Go for it!  If you have the money, that is – I am not advocating debt for clothing.  In a relationship, your partner seems to feel as though they have a right to comment on all your purchases – when you are single, you can blow the bank without feeling that guilt.

  1. Finding Your Zen

No matter how similar you are to someone there will always be differences, and that means fighting.  Summer isn’t a time for fighting, it’s a time for relaxing and having fun!  No relationship means no squabbling.

  1. Sexy Magic

Newly single?  You just got hotter.  Once you own your singleness, you carry an air of independence about you that is envious to those in relationships, and extremely attractive to those who aren’t!  You strut down the beach feeling fine you saucy singleton.

What are YOUR reasons for being single this summer?  Leave a comment below!

Want to read up on all 101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single? Check out the book on Amazon, and Barnes and Noble