At some point in our lives we find ourselves questioning the quality of our group of close friends. Perhaps you’ve been friends since high school and you’ve just held on even though things aren’t a great fit, or maybe you’ve picked them up recently after a friendly introduction in the bathroom bar (post-jagger bomb shot of course).
Whatever the reason, we all have those one or two (or maybe even a handful for you eager beavers out there) friends that we really don’t know why we’re still friends with. Yet, we continue the friendship and pretend as if things are fine.
Some of these friendships are harmless, and at times even helpful. There are others though, that simmer under the surface just waiting to pop up and shake the foundation of your once pleasant lifestyle.
How do you determine the difference? Why, with this list of course:
Top 5 Friend Personality Types:
#1: The Single Clinger
This is usually one of those single friends that focuses on the negative attributes of being single. Whether it’s another “Lonely Friday night with the cat “LOL #catcuddles” Instagram post, or 35 Snapchats to you of dinner with the parents including “Dinner at the parents house, so glad I get food made for me #chicken”, they always seem to fish for some sort of affirmation that their life isn’t completely devoid of excitement and meaning.
It doesn’t matter if they’re talking about pets or parents or friends…. The undertone is always “I’m single and I’m lonely and my life sucks.”
Toss or Keep? These friends are good to keep around, as they are always there for you. They are usually the most loyal in your times of need, and you are usually who they turn to for advice or. However, if their Instagram or Snapchat stories get to be too much, it’s your job to set them straight.
#2: The Boyfriend/Girlfriend Obsessed
These are the friends that find a girlfriend/boyfriend and all of a sudden are gone from your life. They only reach out to you when either a) a fight breaks out and they need you to reaffirm their position or b) they are becoming bored and need their girl time/ boy time.
Toss or Keep? Problem is, you will likely become one of these one day, and you will want your friends to be there in your time of need. Sucking it up now and taking one for the team will only help you later.
#3 The Quiet Listener
These friends are the best friends. They will listen to you whenever you have problems, and will wait for you to ask them about their own. If you don’t reach out to hang out with them they will likely never text you, but as soon as you reach out they are there.
Toss or Keep? Never let this one go – they wont be around all the time, but when they are, they are extremely valuable.
#4: The Alcoholic
This is that friend that you know will always be up for a good party. Every time you go out and every conversation you have, drinking is involved.
You don’t know them on a personal level but when you think about them in general you feel a positive vibe about them. They are always up for a good time.
Toss or Keep? Toss these friends. They often bring a lot of drama, and talk to you about their life situations asking for advice. Other than that, you don’t know each other on a personal level and only ever bond when drinking together.
#5: The Advice Giver
There is always that one friend that knows the solution to everything. You have a bad day and you just want to rant to them – and they come back with some solution to solve all your problems. WTF…
Toss or Keep? Keep this. Yes, this is annoying, but who’s fault is it? They are obviously a good friend trying to help you out, and yes you have the right to rant to them. However, if they offer advice that you don’t want it’s your responsibility to tell them that you really just need a shoulder to listen and not a sounding board.
Get Rid of Your Friends that Suck?
Most of us think we have friends that we just want to drop. In reality though, it’s good to think about those friends that are just annoying in the moment vs. those that really don’t contribute to our lives in general.