Breakup Care Package

The Benefits of Being Single


My phone rang as my coworker knocked on my door.  I told them I’d be over in a minute, as I answered the phone and glanced at my inbox to see 5 unread emails awaiting my attention.

As I hung up the phone I felt a sense of excitement as I reflected on my current situation – I love my job, I thought to myself.  I love having a ton of things going on, and knowing that I have the experience to handle them all.  I love the sense of importance and success I get with every daily achievement.

I reflected back to my elementary school days when I would scatter my drawings all over my desk to look as busy as dad did, as he reviewed cases for an upcoming trial.  I idolized the success of my parents and looked forward to one day working hard to be in a job that I loved and was proud of.

This is just the personality type I have – I am driven, strong, and independent (admittedly to a fault). What does this mean for relationships?  It means I would rather be single than be with someone who suppresses rather than compliments my strengths. I don’t want to be a side-kick, I want a partner in crime (so to speak).

I do believe that one day a partner will come along that can handle my gusto, and enhance my life in a manner that blows all my reasons for being single out of the water.

Until he comes along, however, I embrace all the benefits of being single.  I revel in coming home to watch my favorite TV shows, down a bucket of Ben N Jerry’s without judgement, and sprawl out in my very own bed.  I celebrate all 101 Reasons Why it’s GREAT to be Single.

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single ladies wine night

Wine Nights with My Ladies


Tonight I am planning a wine night with a bunch of my girlfriends.  Since I have my own apartment now, I could technically invite them over whenever … however I like to appreciate this privilege because it isn’t something I could do when I lived with my ex.

I previously attempted to have wine nights.  I claimed that it was “girls night”, which meant my ex could not come because he simply possessed the incorrect genetalia.  Unfortunately this argument never held too strong, and on most occasions he would be there with us, usually with a guy or two.  Of course, the boys would always fuck it up with beer.  It’s WINE night, I tell you!

So I never really got to have ladies wine night because it would always just become multi-genetalia drinking night.  Sure, they were fun too, but I sure do cherish my time with my ladies now that I can have it! #itsgreattobesingle

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