As I carefully plucked the dead leaves off my plant, I thought to myself that by removing these parts that the plant no longer needed, I was allowing it more room to breathe and grow.
Being me, I immediately had an “aha, metaphor!” moment and chuckled to myself like an idiot. It’s true though – when I am in a relationship with someone who is incompatible or even toxic, I hold myself back from personal growth. When I am single, I focus more on myself and how I can improve emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and physically.
I have had some toxic relationships. I knew that they were “dead leaves” to my personal growth, and yet there was a part of me that nagged “if we try harder, if we change this part of our self, then this could work”. Well, it didn’t work, and during the process of discovering this I faced some heavy emotional turmoil. Truth was, we weren’t a good fit – we weren’t right for each other.
There is no regret there because this was a learning experience. It simply meant that I need to be single and focus on growing personally and understanding myself better and what I need in a relationship. No more square peg round hole!
I continue to grow myself emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and physically on a daily basis and I tell you – it feels amazing #itsgreattobesingle