summer single

Top 15 Reasons to Be Single This Summer

dating, relationships

Single for the summer?  Pick up 101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single for the complete list of why being single this summer is going to be simply amazing.

In the meantime, check out our Top 15 Reasons for Staying Single this Summer!

  1. Look Better: Being single means you have more time to hit the gym and get that beach-ready bod.
  2. Have More Time to Travel: No need to compare your schedule with your “other” – just grab a friend and take off!
  3. Save Some Coin: Summertime means warm weather and that means dates that don’t cost a fortune! Picnic on the beach? Yes please!
  4. No Sharing Your Ice Cream: Does this even need an explanation?? Not having to share your cookie dough double scoop should really be enough.
  5. Find Your Stuff Quickly: Summertime means getting home from work, grabbing your beach gear and sprinting back to your besties’ car to hit the beach before sun down. Being single means you don’t have someone moving your things around and causing unnecessary “where’s my suit” type question time-wasters.
  6. Take Advantage of Bonus Invites: Summertime means summertime events, and whenever anyone has a +1 you are always the #1 invite!
  7. Go on Guilt-free Adventures: No need to worry about disappointing your beau when you get invited onto that shirtless all-male speed boat. Sail away you single saucy broad!
  8. Belt it Out: There is an air of liberation when driving around solo in the summer and belting out your summertime tunes.  You just don’t have the same freedom and ridiculousness with your “other” in the car.
  9. Let it Hang Low: Although more accurate for those of the male variety, this still rings true for girls.  Being naked in your own home is extremely liberating if you’re single (**side note: and live alone. Unless the roommates are keen on those kind of shenanigans…).
  10. Be a Visitor in Your Own City: When you’re single you get to go on first dates! That means being a visitor in your own city and checking out the exciting touristy things you wouldn’t normally do.
  11. Mix up Your Meals: Summertime means farmers markets! No need to worry about what your “other” does or doesn’t like, you can create your own summertime concoctions that you enjoy!
  12. No Random Mess: No need to worry about bathing suits tossed over the bannister and sand sprinkled on the floor when you get home from work. The only random summertime messes are from your beachwear….and somehow they are much less annoying when they are yours!
  13. Treat Yourself: Summertime means all those winter clothes are shoved into the back of your closet and new summer-wear is out on display in the stores at a reasonable cost (especially considering you’re only buying half the shirt)… go ahead and rock those crop tops you single saucy broad!
  14. Find Your Zen: No matter how similar you are to someone, or how well you get along, there will always be times when you fight.  Summertime is not a time for fighting; it’s a time to relax, tan, swim, and maybe grab a few bevvies. Being single means no conflict.
  15. Sexy Magic: As soon as you own your singleness you immediately become more attractive to those around you. Whether you’re strutting down the beach, sauntering up to the barista, or casually tossing that Frisbee back to the individual with the winning “thank you” smile, you are owning this summer!!

* For the full article see Top 15 Reasons to be Single this Summer

**For the full 101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single book see Amazon

Did I miss one?  Leave your comment below!!

getting over a breakup

How to Get Over a Breakup


Breakups are the worst.  Either someone has dumped you, or you’re sick of the BS you have to deal with on a daily basis and you’ve made a decision to kick them out of your life.  In any case, you’re left alone, thinking about all the good times you had and all the things you will miss about that person.

There is some sort of sick pleasure in continuing to feel that pain. We have one small thought… and then start to dwell on that thought, and all of a sudden that small pain is an immense torture and we’re sitting in a pool of tears bellowing out “why!?!”, “why?!???”, until eventually our neighbors come to hate us.

Well, that sadness is healthy.  Maybe not to the extreme of surrounding yourself with soggy Kleenex while you yell out to the gods for spiting you, but some sadness is good to sit in for a bit so that you can work through it and not have to deal with it again. Once that sadness is over though, it’s time to move on.  It’s time to visualize a giant STOP sign in your mind each time you think about the “good” times, and maybe even snap an elastic band on your wrist to physically pull yourself out.

Why?  Because it wasn’t good.  It ended for a reason.

Just sit with that for a minute.  For all the great, amazing times you had together.  For all the compliments, and laughs, and heart-melting conversations, there was something (or maybe lots of things), that made it impractical or impossible to continue a relationship.  For all good things, there were equally shitty things just sitting behind the corner not being acknowledged.

So, let’s move on.  You’re an amazing human being with tons of things going for you and there are a million reasons why it’s great to be single.

I’ve started out by outlining 101 of them to steer you on the right path.  This blog discusses a lot of them – they are light, humorous reflections of my own personal experience related to being in a relationship vs. being single.

I thought it would be hard to think of 101.  In fact, they came quite easily.  If you’d like to take a gander check out 101 Reasons Why it’s Great to Be Single.

So go ahead, you amazing individual – visualize that stop sign and start looking forward to all the great things that lay ahead of you. With hope comes all possibility #itsgreattobesingle